LOL, a weird ending to my night.

Okay real quick let me share this.

For about a year now there has been a Walgreens right on my way home from work, like a minute from my house. Usually if I need anything, milk, girl stuff, anything, I'll make a pit stop after work.

There is always the same guy at the register. He always remembers me and is very nice. Answering any questions I have etc. He has never hit on me and has always been polite.

Well tonight I go in and ask if there are any sales on wrapping paper. So he goes to find out and then shows me where it all is. While I'm looking he comments that he likes my shoes (Steve madden slipper sequined type). I said thanks and he said that he thinks they look really good when girls where them. I just said that they were really comfy and I loved them.

I still at this point didn't think it was any more than polite conversation. But just as he was saying that another guy that worked there was leaving for the night.

I went about my business and while I was getting rung up he asked if I was done my shopping and I said how I was mostly done but my son was so hard. He's all 'Oh you have a kid?' and I said 'Yup, two my daughter is three and my son five.' Then went on and on about boys being difficult to shop for.

STILL OBLIVIOUS TO ANY FLIRTATION. I must have been really tiered. lol.

Just as he's about done he says 'so are you with your boyfriend or something?' Me, all confused, 'excuse me?' him, 'are you with anyone?' me (glancing at my wedding ring and engagement ring on my LEFT ring finger) 'ummm, I'm married for 6 years now' him, 'oh your married?' me 'yup'.

Now even though right there I can tell he was interested I still wasn't annoyed with him. Yeah it was a dumb question, I was wearing a wedding set, but he was very polite and not degrading at all.

The phone rang before he could say anymore and THIS shocked me. All I could hear was his side of the convo of course. This is how it went.
"No I wasn't hitting on her."
"I was paying her a compliment"
"You got something to say about it come back here."
"You waited till you left"
"Mind your business"
"I wasn't hitting on her!"
And then he hung up the phone.

His co-worker called him back to ream him about complimenting me on my shoes! OMG I was dying. So I just said thanks Merry Christmas and left.

Ha ha. So that was a nice way to finish off my night. Too funny. Poor guy.


~ Nicole

Hot or Not? Right or Wrong?

Yesterday Dylan, Izzy, Myself, Holly and Daphne had an email debate on a few things. And since I don't really think any of us ended up agreeing with each other (except for Dylan and Holly) I wanted to open it up to all of you.
It started off with me bringing up the fact that a stripper in Vegas that I thought was hot ended up not being when I actually saw a picture one of us got of his entire face. See that night he had a hat on that covered his eyes and most of his nose. To my surprise though not everyone, barley anyone, agreed with me. So I got to thinking....I always thought men were either hot, cute, okay or ugly and that everyone would agree on what category a man would fall in. I mean if he's hot he's hon and if he's not he's not right? Well obviously not. I will post a picture of the one I don't think is hot, and a picture of one I really thought was hot. Now both Dylan and Holly's opinions on these two guys are complete opposite of my thoughts...What do you think?

HOT

NOT


I guess sometimes it falls into what do you like? Blond? Light? Brown eyes? Etc. Etc. But when a guy has a big nose, sunken eyes and long pushed back teeth with bad lips I would think he is just ugly. lol. See how different we can all be. But moving on here.....

That was not the only thing we all disagreed on yesterday. I also said that I think strip clubs for men vs. women are totally different. And that I think a lap dance for a woman is more okay than for a guy. Take for example when we got our dances. The music was modern pop it wasn't sooooo dark, we were all together laughing and yelling. The guys actually would pose for pictures as they were doing the dances. It was more in fun then let me turn you on. Now down stairs where the women danced my husband also got a dance along with a few other men. Down there it is dark the women don't dance they gyrate their hips on a pole and slap their boobs around, then when they give you a dance there is nothing fun about it. It is all about turning the men on and such. I mean come on the woman asked my husband if he wanted to go into the VIP room in the back for a half hour, it would only be $300 and she would ..... yeah I think you know. And your gonna tell me that there is no differences between the two? You can't even have a camera where the girls dance. If it is the same why is that different?
I'm gonna let you see some of the emails going back and forth between us girls. Then I want your opinions too. But don't get confused if we jump around a lot down here, there were over 100 emails and so I'll just be posting up a few.

(okay so the day started with a few emails back and forth on men being hot or not, then it moved on to strip clubs. I took a break from emailing since I wasn't feeling well, and when I got back there were a ton of emails. I'll show you a few then I'll show you my responses.)

Dylan:
Hey wait...so how did the whole strip clubbing business come around? So did you guys change your mind the whole touching is cheating business at the strip club? Cause you naughty girls were all about the touching, LMAO.

(she is saying this cause my rule always was you can go but you can't touch, but you'll see in my next email what my thoughts were behind letting it be in Vegas)

Holly:
The atmosphere is different from the men and women. Where the girls are, it's dark and quiet and the guys just sit and drool, they don't talk or laugh or whatever. But with the men, the girls are all wild and crazy, snapping pics and cat calling, plus, it's darker where the girls are. That's why she says it's different.
I disagree. What's good for the gander is good for the goose, but whatever. The thing is, having been there now, it didn't bother me at all to see MM in the strip club. Even knowing a stripper sat on his lap and he touched her boob doesn't' bother me. But whatever, Niks is weird. LOL

Izzy:
The way I see it, yeah we drooled over the guys, but we're screaming, laughing giggling, and all that. We go to have fun and have a few laughs. Guy go to get horny.

Dylan:
Alright, this is going to be our first debate Nikki...because I don't see how the whole atmosphere being different to be a factor in why it's okay for you to get lap dances but not Josh...no matter what kind of atmosphere there are at the strip club, these are the facts: Some guy is dancing all up on you and you're touching his family jewels and just having a good time, as long as you don't go home with the guy, why can't Josh do the same? Josh paid for his lap dance, so he cops a feel on the girl, she does a little dance for him, throws her boobs in his face, whatever...at the end of the night, Josh comes home to you, so regardless of the atmosphere, if it's okay for you to get your fun on with a stripper, then why is it a big deal if Josh is doing the same?

Me:
Ummmm, NO! Goodness, I go take a rest and you girls get it all mixed up! lol. I had no problem with Josh getting a lap dance in Vegas. But my rule still stands that he can't ever get one again. Over in Vegas it's like that saying "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" DON'T BRING IT HOME! Now can Josh go to strip clubs here? If it is for a bachelor party yes, just to hang no. That's my rules plain and simple.
Is it different for guys and girls? (lap dances/strip clubs) YES! Don't know why but it is. The guys sit and drink and look at a girl with barley any panties on gyrate her hips on a pole the entire reason for a lap dance is to get them all horny. For the women the guys were really dancing to pop music and they were laughing and having a good time. When we got a dance they would strike a pose for a picture. IF you want to say it's the same thing why can't the men take pictures? Cause it's not the same at all.
But in saying all that, I wasn't mad at Josh for his lap dances. I thought I would be but when he told me I didn't' care.
Oh and how bout this.....the girl that danced for Josh asked him if he wanted to go to the VIP room and said it would be $300 for a half hour and she would suck his dick! Hmmmm, how many guys offered to eat us? Yeah didn't think so. VERY different!

Dylan:
Okay nowhere did we mention anything about blow jobs, that's a different debate, one we'll ALL be on the same page about...but we're talking lap dances, doing the same thing YOU GUYS did at the strip club, none of this bringing in other stuff nobody knew about.
As far as bringing it home...so you're saying that Josh can't go to strip clubs at home at all, but you can? Right? That's what I remember you saying, which is what sparked the whole goose and gander thing...so can he and can you?

Me:
Josh has before and I'm still fine with him going to a strip club FOR A BACHLOR PARTY ONLY! I do not think it is okay for him to just go for the heck of it.
I will probably only ever go to a strip club if my sisters want to go. Neither have gone and if they go I'll go with them. But will I make a weekend trip thing out of it all the time? NO. I don't think it's good for either guys or girls to do that all the time.
And the blow job thing is part of it, cause that is why it is not okay for lap dances, and why it is different for men. Cause that is what happens some of the time. And it has nothing to do with OUR guys it has to do with the girls. I mean really think about it, do you hear of girls going to strip clubs and get guys offering to go down on them in a VIP room for $300???

Holly:
So by your own admission it's ok for you to go with your sisters, but it's not ok for josh unless he's going to a bachelor party? HELLO DOUBLE STANDARDS! And it is NOT different because of the blow job thing. PuhLEEZ! I think what it comes down to is if you guy WOULD TAKE THE BJ OR NOT! So...unless you think he's screwing around on you, I don't see why you'd get upset...

Me:
No that's not right at all. His bachelor party thing is the same as my sister thing. Both puts limits on how often we would go. Josh goes to a bachelor party what? Maybe two a year, max. I would go with my sisters once for their first time. So that's about the same. What is the double standard there? And I don't care how much anyone argues there are major differences in the atmosphere in both clubs, and a difference in the lap dances. And it has nothing to do with trusting Josh isn't screwing around on me. There are some situations you just shouldn't be in, plain and simple. And one where a naked woman is offering to suck your dick after just rubbing her scantly clad pussy on it is one of those situations. And Josh agrees. That was his first lap dance(s) and he's done. He has no issue with going with his buddies for a B party and watching the groom get a big joking lap dance IN FRONT OF THEM ALL, but those kinds are all in good fun.

Dylan:
That still don't make a lick of sense, Nicole.
It shouldn't be okay for you to go to strip clubs to get lap dances but not okay for Josh. And you say that it's because of the offers he gets that he can't get those, I can't see why you would punish JOSH for something someone else said or offered. Now I'd only see it being an issue if Josh actually took the offer then yeah, BIG NO NO and NO MORE STRIP CLUB and big time DIVORCE but that is a big time DOUBLE STANDARD, if you can go but he can't. If Josh can't go to strip clubs than you shouldn't be able to go with your sisters. Because you never know, maybe the next strip club YOU will get the offer, you wouldn't want Josh to get mad at you because of something someone else offered? You didn't take it but you still got punished for it, where's the fairness in that?

Me:
I DID NOT say that he couldn't go to the clubs. I said he can't get lap dances. And even though I do think there are big differences in the dances girls and guys give I still am not going to be getting any more. And how am I having a double standard? Didn't you read what I wrote about me going with my sisters will end up being less of an amount of time then when Josh goes for his B parties? I am so not getting what is wrong with what I'm saying.
And that is dumb for saying it only matters if he takes the bait. It's like saying to Josh "Okay you can go out with your brother and his friends while they smoke pot as long as you don't accept when they offer it to you." Ummm No he just should not be there. Hello!

(Just for the record his brother doesn't smoke pot, I was just using that for an example.)

Daphne:
i think what nikks is trying to say is that.. .it's better to have preventative controls than detection controls. better to not put josh in the path where he could be tempted to do things like that (preventative) rather than find out later and get in a fight (detection)

Holly:
Which I understand. However, my issue is with her saying she'd get another lap dance, but Josh can't. How is THAT ok?

Me:
Umm if I said that it was a miss-type cause I think just a post or two ago I said that there are major differences in the two different type of lap dances but at the same time I won't be getting another.

Holly:
See, but I disagree, because even tho she's saying she doesn't want another one, she did say it would be OK if she wanted to, because it's not like it is when the men get them. See....

There are a lot more where that came from but I think you get the point of all of our sides. So now....what do you think??? Or maybe is it not as black and white to you? Fill me in, I'm all kinds of eager to hear your thoughts.

~ Nicole

Twice this week!

Morons have tried to pick me up! Let me give you a run down of both. They are both ridiculously lame.

Okay background info, I work in a jewelry store. We clean jewelry from us or not, we cannot turn someone away. It really sucks cause we have those guys with their ghetto chains and rings coming in. So this is what happened the other day.

First Guy~
I'm at work (oh, I'm wearing a straight black skirt, slit in back, black strappy high heels, white cami, with a sort grey jacket) and these three guys walk up. I ask them how they are and if I can help them (I already see the one guy checking me out). One guy pulls out a BAG full of ghetto jewelry and is like "you clean jewelry, right?"
Me~ "Sure."
Him~ Cool, here you go." (handing me all his ghettoness)
So I turn to go to the cleaner and I hear the one guy say "Damn!" I ignore them all. While at the cleaner I go to put my hair up so it doesn't get in my face as I'm cleaning his jewelry and I hear "I'll do that for you mami." So finally I turn and look him dead in the eye and say "Excuse me?" and he's all "You Spanish?" Me "I'm half Puerto Rican." Him "I knew it from that sexy ass walk of yours." Me "Hmmm, really? I didn't' know you could tell nationalities from the way one walks!" and I turn away. Gave him his stuff and walked to the back of the store. Okay how lame was that? He could tell what I was cause of my 'sexy ass walk'??? Get a new pick up line!


Okay now, I work in jewelry and know the rules to follow, but I rarely do! But the other day I tried to remember, so before getting in the shower I took off my wedding and engagement rings and put them on the counter. What did that result in? Me forgetting to put the back on and went to work with my cheaters ring only (the tan line on my ring finger). And this is what happened.

Second Guy~
I greet a customer and ask him if I can help him. He looks at me and smiles and says I helped him with his wife's gift last year. I smile and pretend to remember him. So on we go, he's looking for a gift for his daughter. So he's smiling and joking and on and on. So finally after about 45 min. of BS he settles on a ring. I'm about to ring it up and he's all. "So are you married?" Me "Yup! Six years now." and he's all "OH, where's your rings?" Me, "forgot them on the counter at home, I hate that." Him "Well I'm glad your married." Me, "oh?" Him, "yeah I was thinking, damn she better be taken or that's a waste of a fine woman." Me (tight smile) "Thanks, here's your purchase. Have a nice night." Walk away.

OMG, is it me or are all men's pickup lines just plain horrible???

......ThE gUy RooM!!!......

JD has forever wanted a 'guy room', you know a place to put up all his football stuff that he buys and I don't let him put anywhere else in the house. lol. So he's finally got it. His urge for one always becomes bigger right around preseason stuff for football, and since I am going to Vegas in November I figured why not. So the loft is his. It used to be the kids playroom but they were mostly just going up there getting toys and bringing them down to the living room or their room, so what the heck. The only rule? He had to keep two things up there. That big blue ball rolling game thing you see in this picture, cause it's to big to put anywhere else in the house and the kids love it. And J's basket ball thing. It's just a plastic hoop but I don't want it down stairs. So here's a picture...

It's so not done, obviously. You can still see the blue paint tape up. He painted the back wall grey (for the eagles) side walls white, and will hang all his eagles stuff up on the grey wall. He actually went to Home Dept and got "Eagles Grey" paint. *rolling eyes* And the football rug? lol, that used to be in J's room, we bought it for him. ha ha. And the sofa table you see in front of the window? yeah, that's coming down stairs, I just have to stain it first. It doesn't match the wood I have in the rest of the house. And that's J's recliner kinda just sitting there randomly, so cute it matches JD's to a T. And here's another angle of the room.

Oh and quick story behind that busted up fan? I was purposely annoying JD one night cause I was mad at him. And he threw the fan across the room and it fell down the stairs. So it broke all up, and he taped it back together. Don't know why we didn't just trash it. But now it kinda holds fond memories. lol. After he threw it I looked at him and said "Hmmm, do you feel better now?" ha ah ha!


Oh what the hell, since I posted pics of JD's guy room, lets show a picture or two of my room! The living room. Where my computer and books are.

Excuse the rug thrown over the railing. I didn't even notice it till I looked at the picture. It's my kitchen rug, but I was moping so I threw it there for a bit.

I'm going to be getting some kind of cover for that couch, I'm not really feeling the color. But it is soooo comfy!

So what do you think? Who has the better room. lol, I know what one the guys will pick.

How bout it baby?

I swear to you I just don't get it. With the lines and ploys guys use these days, do they really think we'll be interested? Here are just some examples of the tactics they use.

I'm driving along listening to the radio when I stop at a red light. I happen to look over and see these two guys in a truck next to me, when they realize they have my attention they look at me lick their lips while giving me a nod. You know the nod right? The one that they think says 'you know you want me baby, feel privileged that I'm looking at you' . . . Okay, so what do I do? Give them a 'your a moron' little smile and look away. Do they get the hint? No of course not, they start to blow me kisses. Now really! Do they think I'm going to all of the sudden pull over and hop in their truck for a three-some? Yeah, not really gonna happen.

Or how about this, I'm at work the other day and we're about to close. So I'm walking around the outside of the store wiping down the glass making sure everything is in order, when I see these three guys walking towards me. I don't pay them any mind, but as they are about to pass me one of them pushes their friend into my path and says "this is Joe"! I seriously looked at him like he was an alien. Did he, or his friends, think that was a good way to meet a girl? I think the last time someone used that was in junior high!

I work at a jewelry store, I wear my wedding ring and engagement ring. Which is quite nice if I do say so myself (just got a new set). So why do I have guys ask me if I am married as if it isn't so obvious? And why when I patiently smile and say 'yes I am' do some of them actually have the nerve to ask 'how married am I' WTF? I'm married, married married! What other kind of married is there?

Or this is one of my favorites. When your walking and you hear "hey mama!" proceeded by kisses and whistles. Yeah that has got to be my favorite. That is why I've taken to ignoring, giving dirty looks or just shaking my head when guys try to pick me up.

So it was really quite funny the other day when at work I was sent on a run for ice cream. ~We have a Cold Stone right outside the mall and sometimes we just have to have it~. So I am walking back to the store and am running up the stairs when I hear a guy behind me saying something. Well like I said it is either a) ignore them b) give a dirty look or c) shake my head. So not wanting to turn around to give a dirty look to scared I'd fall, and to annoyed to ignore I chose b) shake my head. So that's what I did and as I got to the top of the stairs I keep on walking till I see a group of kids arguing and it catches my attention, so as I pass them I look back and out of the corner of my eye I see this guy Christian (this HOT guy) that also works in the mall (he's a glasses technician or something). So I stop and say "hey, didn't see you there." and he's all "I was calling your name on the stairs didn't you hear me?" and I blush and say "oh no! Sorry I usually just ignore or give dirty looks." he laughs and said "yeah I noticed" then he winks and says "That's the kind of girl I need." Now if he was using that line to pick me up, maybe it would have worked. IF I was single. Cause goodness did he look so cute looking at me like that as he winked and smiled.