Clay and Kelly....what do you think?

The Incident

So all this drama happened on Monday I think. I am not a big fan of morning shows so I did not see this live. But as I'm sure we all know a big enough stink was done up over it that everyone has heard. And I'm not going to side here and say I love one and not the other. I love Clays singing, I think he's great. Doesn't mean I think he should be putting hands on others mouths. Kelly I think is funny but do I think she's a interview hog? Yeah. But that doesn't mean she was wrong here. Soooo...My take? Hands are dirty and in all honesty you don't know where any one's hands have been, regardless of their sexuality. They shake someones hand so now on their hand they have their germs the person's hand they shooks germs and everyone that that other person touched germs. And even if we were to go into it being of sexual orientation, why would it be a gay thing? Even if he was straight, which none of us really know, you still wouldn't want his hands on your mouth! Touch a man touch a woman don't put it on my mouth!

Rosie outs Clay on The View

But of course Rosie has to see it has a homophobic statement! Why am I soooo surprised? Goodness this woman blows things out of proportion! First of all she kept saying that she just feels so bad for Clay. Well if she feels so bad for him why is she sitting on her show and saying he's gay? He's never even said it, don't you think that is a little wrong??? I do! And she said Kelly has her perspective and she has hers, Ummm let me think here. NO! Kelly said it, so what Kelly said it means is not a perspective it is the facts! Wake up Rosie. Think before you speak Rosie, think before you speak.

Clay and Tori Reenact the Clay and Kelly Incident

But obviously it wasn't as bad as everyone was saying it was for Clay, or at least he put on a front that it wasn't. He is seen here joking about it with Tory Spelling. So ha ha, is it going to be dropped now? Most likely not. What's the fun in that right?

Kelly Ripa Rips Clay Aiken

But in the end I can say that I don't think it was such a big deal that Kelly needed to go into all this with Regis. I mean say that you think it was wrong that he had his hand on your mouth, fine. But to make it like this is some horrible person now? Come on, give the guy a break. Regis is right, Clay was probably nervous. But who knows, we'll never know what he's thinking since he seems to keep so much to himself.

I just really think Rosie got out of line with this one, but that tends to be my thoughts on a lot involving her. And no that doesn't make me a homophob! lol. So what are your thoughts? Come on, I want to here, no matter who you agree with on this.


Here is the story all wrapped up in a nut shell from two different reporters. So if you didn't want to watch all the other video's I put up, pick one of these and you'll be all caught up.

The Insider on Kelly Ripa/Clay Aiken hand incident


Perez Hilton on GMA

Happy Thanksgiving!

I love you all my readers/friends! I hope you all have a great holiday and stuff yourselves silly. I know I will. haha.
It's been a quiet week here on my blog, but I'll have some new stuff after the holiday. Don't forget about me!
Eat good and shop shop shop!!!

~ Nicole

Hot or Not? Right or Wrong?

Yesterday Dylan, Izzy, Myself, Holly and Daphne had an email debate on a few things. And since I don't really think any of us ended up agreeing with each other (except for Dylan and Holly) I wanted to open it up to all of you.
It started off with me bringing up the fact that a stripper in Vegas that I thought was hot ended up not being when I actually saw a picture one of us got of his entire face. See that night he had a hat on that covered his eyes and most of his nose. To my surprise though not everyone, barley anyone, agreed with me. So I got to thinking....I always thought men were either hot, cute, okay or ugly and that everyone would agree on what category a man would fall in. I mean if he's hot he's hon and if he's not he's not right? Well obviously not. I will post a picture of the one I don't think is hot, and a picture of one I really thought was hot. Now both Dylan and Holly's opinions on these two guys are complete opposite of my thoughts...What do you think?

HOT

NOT


I guess sometimes it falls into what do you like? Blond? Light? Brown eyes? Etc. Etc. But when a guy has a big nose, sunken eyes and long pushed back teeth with bad lips I would think he is just ugly. lol. See how different we can all be. But moving on here.....

That was not the only thing we all disagreed on yesterday. I also said that I think strip clubs for men vs. women are totally different. And that I think a lap dance for a woman is more okay than for a guy. Take for example when we got our dances. The music was modern pop it wasn't sooooo dark, we were all together laughing and yelling. The guys actually would pose for pictures as they were doing the dances. It was more in fun then let me turn you on. Now down stairs where the women danced my husband also got a dance along with a few other men. Down there it is dark the women don't dance they gyrate their hips on a pole and slap their boobs around, then when they give you a dance there is nothing fun about it. It is all about turning the men on and such. I mean come on the woman asked my husband if he wanted to go into the VIP room in the back for a half hour, it would only be $300 and she would ..... yeah I think you know. And your gonna tell me that there is no differences between the two? You can't even have a camera where the girls dance. If it is the same why is that different?
I'm gonna let you see some of the emails going back and forth between us girls. Then I want your opinions too. But don't get confused if we jump around a lot down here, there were over 100 emails and so I'll just be posting up a few.

(okay so the day started with a few emails back and forth on men being hot or not, then it moved on to strip clubs. I took a break from emailing since I wasn't feeling well, and when I got back there were a ton of emails. I'll show you a few then I'll show you my responses.)

Dylan:
Hey wait...so how did the whole strip clubbing business come around? So did you guys change your mind the whole touching is cheating business at the strip club? Cause you naughty girls were all about the touching, LMAO.

(she is saying this cause my rule always was you can go but you can't touch, but you'll see in my next email what my thoughts were behind letting it be in Vegas)

Holly:
The atmosphere is different from the men and women. Where the girls are, it's dark and quiet and the guys just sit and drool, they don't talk or laugh or whatever. But with the men, the girls are all wild and crazy, snapping pics and cat calling, plus, it's darker where the girls are. That's why she says it's different.
I disagree. What's good for the gander is good for the goose, but whatever. The thing is, having been there now, it didn't bother me at all to see MM in the strip club. Even knowing a stripper sat on his lap and he touched her boob doesn't' bother me. But whatever, Niks is weird. LOL

Izzy:
The way I see it, yeah we drooled over the guys, but we're screaming, laughing giggling, and all that. We go to have fun and have a few laughs. Guy go to get horny.

Dylan:
Alright, this is going to be our first debate Nikki...because I don't see how the whole atmosphere being different to be a factor in why it's okay for you to get lap dances but not Josh...no matter what kind of atmosphere there are at the strip club, these are the facts: Some guy is dancing all up on you and you're touching his family jewels and just having a good time, as long as you don't go home with the guy, why can't Josh do the same? Josh paid for his lap dance, so he cops a feel on the girl, she does a little dance for him, throws her boobs in his face, whatever...at the end of the night, Josh comes home to you, so regardless of the atmosphere, if it's okay for you to get your fun on with a stripper, then why is it a big deal if Josh is doing the same?

Me:
Ummmm, NO! Goodness, I go take a rest and you girls get it all mixed up! lol. I had no problem with Josh getting a lap dance in Vegas. But my rule still stands that he can't ever get one again. Over in Vegas it's like that saying "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" DON'T BRING IT HOME! Now can Josh go to strip clubs here? If it is for a bachelor party yes, just to hang no. That's my rules plain and simple.
Is it different for guys and girls? (lap dances/strip clubs) YES! Don't know why but it is. The guys sit and drink and look at a girl with barley any panties on gyrate her hips on a pole the entire reason for a lap dance is to get them all horny. For the women the guys were really dancing to pop music and they were laughing and having a good time. When we got a dance they would strike a pose for a picture. IF you want to say it's the same thing why can't the men take pictures? Cause it's not the same at all.
But in saying all that, I wasn't mad at Josh for his lap dances. I thought I would be but when he told me I didn't' care.
Oh and how bout this.....the girl that danced for Josh asked him if he wanted to go to the VIP room and said it would be $300 for a half hour and she would suck his dick! Hmmmm, how many guys offered to eat us? Yeah didn't think so. VERY different!

Dylan:
Okay nowhere did we mention anything about blow jobs, that's a different debate, one we'll ALL be on the same page about...but we're talking lap dances, doing the same thing YOU GUYS did at the strip club, none of this bringing in other stuff nobody knew about.
As far as bringing it home...so you're saying that Josh can't go to strip clubs at home at all, but you can? Right? That's what I remember you saying, which is what sparked the whole goose and gander thing...so can he and can you?

Me:
Josh has before and I'm still fine with him going to a strip club FOR A BACHLOR PARTY ONLY! I do not think it is okay for him to just go for the heck of it.
I will probably only ever go to a strip club if my sisters want to go. Neither have gone and if they go I'll go with them. But will I make a weekend trip thing out of it all the time? NO. I don't think it's good for either guys or girls to do that all the time.
And the blow job thing is part of it, cause that is why it is not okay for lap dances, and why it is different for men. Cause that is what happens some of the time. And it has nothing to do with OUR guys it has to do with the girls. I mean really think about it, do you hear of girls going to strip clubs and get guys offering to go down on them in a VIP room for $300???

Holly:
So by your own admission it's ok for you to go with your sisters, but it's not ok for josh unless he's going to a bachelor party? HELLO DOUBLE STANDARDS! And it is NOT different because of the blow job thing. PuhLEEZ! I think what it comes down to is if you guy WOULD TAKE THE BJ OR NOT! So...unless you think he's screwing around on you, I don't see why you'd get upset...

Me:
No that's not right at all. His bachelor party thing is the same as my sister thing. Both puts limits on how often we would go. Josh goes to a bachelor party what? Maybe two a year, max. I would go with my sisters once for their first time. So that's about the same. What is the double standard there? And I don't care how much anyone argues there are major differences in the atmosphere in both clubs, and a difference in the lap dances. And it has nothing to do with trusting Josh isn't screwing around on me. There are some situations you just shouldn't be in, plain and simple. And one where a naked woman is offering to suck your dick after just rubbing her scantly clad pussy on it is one of those situations. And Josh agrees. That was his first lap dance(s) and he's done. He has no issue with going with his buddies for a B party and watching the groom get a big joking lap dance IN FRONT OF THEM ALL, but those kinds are all in good fun.

Dylan:
That still don't make a lick of sense, Nicole.
It shouldn't be okay for you to go to strip clubs to get lap dances but not okay for Josh. And you say that it's because of the offers he gets that he can't get those, I can't see why you would punish JOSH for something someone else said or offered. Now I'd only see it being an issue if Josh actually took the offer then yeah, BIG NO NO and NO MORE STRIP CLUB and big time DIVORCE but that is a big time DOUBLE STANDARD, if you can go but he can't. If Josh can't go to strip clubs than you shouldn't be able to go with your sisters. Because you never know, maybe the next strip club YOU will get the offer, you wouldn't want Josh to get mad at you because of something someone else offered? You didn't take it but you still got punished for it, where's the fairness in that?

Me:
I DID NOT say that he couldn't go to the clubs. I said he can't get lap dances. And even though I do think there are big differences in the dances girls and guys give I still am not going to be getting any more. And how am I having a double standard? Didn't you read what I wrote about me going with my sisters will end up being less of an amount of time then when Josh goes for his B parties? I am so not getting what is wrong with what I'm saying.
And that is dumb for saying it only matters if he takes the bait. It's like saying to Josh "Okay you can go out with your brother and his friends while they smoke pot as long as you don't accept when they offer it to you." Ummm No he just should not be there. Hello!

(Just for the record his brother doesn't smoke pot, I was just using that for an example.)

Daphne:
i think what nikks is trying to say is that.. .it's better to have preventative controls than detection controls. better to not put josh in the path where he could be tempted to do things like that (preventative) rather than find out later and get in a fight (detection)

Holly:
Which I understand. However, my issue is with her saying she'd get another lap dance, but Josh can't. How is THAT ok?

Me:
Umm if I said that it was a miss-type cause I think just a post or two ago I said that there are major differences in the two different type of lap dances but at the same time I won't be getting another.

Holly:
See, but I disagree, because even tho she's saying she doesn't want another one, she did say it would be OK if she wanted to, because it's not like it is when the men get them. See....

There are a lot more where that came from but I think you get the point of all of our sides. So now....what do you think??? Or maybe is it not as black and white to you? Fill me in, I'm all kinds of eager to hear your thoughts.

~ Nicole

I've been tagged by....

Nobody! lol, I'm just stealing this from Dylan's blog cause I like it.

1. Grab the nearest book.

2. Open to page 123.

3. Find the fifth sentence.

4. Post the text of the next four sentences on your blog along with these instructions.

5. Don't you dare dig around for that "cool" or "intellectual" book on your shelves. (I know you were thinking about it.) Just pick up whatever is closest.

Here is mine, can you guess my book?

"I don't know. It depends on the charges."
"Well, how is it done? Is there a teller machine somewhere? Or do I write a check?"
"You can only use cash." She straightened and looked over at him. "Don't tell me you've never been arrested."

Okay now that was fun! I'm just tagging anyone who wants to do this. And don't forget to check back later, I have a really good post coming up and I need all your opinions on it. Guys and girls! I'm counting on you.

~ Nicole

I'm back.

I know I know I've been back for three days now and have given you nothing. But I am soooooo dragging still! OMG you wouldn't think that a measly three hour difference would be a big deal but I am having trouble adjusting. I wake up and want to go right back to bed, it's like I can't function. Uggg. Help me!



So on to Vegas.....I absolutely loved meeting up with my friends, I loved all the yummy margaritas, I liked the show I saw, I lost money (or should we say Josh did). But all in all? Atlantic City is just as good to do the same stuff, and it has a beach! Well actually I don't think it has as many cool bar/restaurants.
I don't know, I guess all the hype I hear I was expecting some major larger than life place. And it wasn't. It was cool and all but not worth all the money you put out to go and do stuff. And I'm not big on gambling and lets face it that is THE major part of Vegas.

What I did like? Drinking margaritas with my chickies. lol. And the hotels were beautiful to walk around and look at.

But I'm still tired so I'll post pics and tell more later. Yes there are more good things, I went to a strip club!!! But that's for tomorrow or something. If you just can't wait go to Holly or Izzy's blog, they have lots of pics and stories up.

~ Nicole

Woooo Freaking Hoooooo!!!

Officially I'm on vacation, last night was my last day of work (or night I should say). And tomorrow, at 6am I will be on my way to LAS VEGAS BABY!!! I am sooooo beyond excited. And although what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas I'll tell you anything crazy that Holly or Izzy does. lol. Just not about myself. Just joking, you know I'll spill all....er....most....or some. LMAO! Guess we'll just wait and see, huh?

So here's a question.....4 days 3 nights.......how much do you pack? My husband thinks I should bring two pairs of shoes and be set??!?!?!?!? Is he freaking crazy??? I think right now I have 5 or 6 pairs packed. And I'm not finished packing. I know for a fact that I always over pack though. I'm always afraid I won't have everything I need.

What am I bringing???

My hooker shoes (lol, yup you heard right) they are my five inch clear spike heeled shoes, they are super cute. I'm going to wear them with my cute jeans and this hot black shirt I bought and new wristlet. Among other outfits. Oh and I got this super cute white tank top that loose fitting, it kinda hangs low in the front and loose, and it has sequins on the straps with this cute grey skirt, for casual. And the same shirt maybe with this teal skirt, for a more dressy look. Now my only problem is getting a white wristlet, I NEED one. lol.

Okay what other shoes do I have? Black knee high heeled boots, teal shoes, black flats, brown flats, gold sandals (although I don't think I even have anything gold with me, but they are super cute.) Hmmmm, I don't think I can think of any other shoes right now, Oh wait! My black snake skin looking strappy black sandals, high heeled again.

I painted my toes and finger nails last night, got my new bracelets and necklace, my make-up is ready, other clothes and things set aside and all, but I will bore you no longer with it. One thing I promise though are LOTS of pictures when we all get back!

side note *I think I said "super cute" almost five times, what is wrong with me??? lol*

~ Nicole

Rene you freaking ROCK!!!

Okay so I know it's dumb to get all excited over but.....I was making cream of wheat the other day and burnt the milk to the bottom of my pot. Now this is my favorite pot, besides this one I have my big pasta pots and my small one I boil tea water in. But this pot is the only one that is the perfect size to make cream of wheat or oatmeal in for the entire family. And I ruined it! I've been trying to scrub it and soak it in hot water for a few days. So when I was on the phone with Rene today she told me to put some water in the pot with dishsoap and boil it for like 10 min. And guess what???? It freaking worked! So again RENE YOU FREAKING ROCK! lol.

Something else kinda related....I found out while talking to Rene. She's never had Cream of Wheat. Is this common? My family eats it all the time, I always had it on cold mornings growing up. So how bout you? Cream of Wheat? Oatmeal??? What was your breakfasts growing up?

~ Nicole

I really don't get it

Why do you call someone a name that does not apply? See I call people names when I'm mad or pissed. If they are acting like a bitch I'll call them a bitch, if they are acting slutty I'll call them a slut. But why if it has nothing sexual related at all would a woman call another woman a whore??? How demeaning and disrespectful are some women to others??? Anyway I just wanted to put that out there, I may expand on this but for now that's all. Just WHY?

~ Nicole